Unleash your inner Christian Grey.

Explore your dominant side

For many people the idea of the relationship between a 'Dom/Domme' (dominant) and her 'sub' (submissive) is a puzzling one, and not something they've come across before. However, 50 Shades of Grey has a lot to answer for, (and I'm not just talking about awkward book club conversations!). We've received an increase in enquiries (via our online form) from women interested in exploring their dominant side, so we decided to put together this handy 101 for those new to the idea of turning men into submissive slaves. Dominance and submission can be a fun and kinky way of spicing things up in the bedroom, and if your man is willing and able to play along he is sure to get plenty of pleasure out of it too.

Naughty fun products for dominance and submission

In terms of products, the sky's the limit really! But we advise that start with a couple of simple items and as you become more confident and knowledgeable you can expand your range of products. We recommend you start with a light to medium flogger, for example the Faux Leather Flogger from Sex & Mischief. A paddle is also a good investment and we have a couple in stock like the Doc Johnson James Deen Switch Paddle. Rope is an essential if you are exploring your inner Dom – use some silky rope from Sex & Mischief – it's soft but we still advise you watch out for rope burn! We have plenty more products in our 'naughty fun' section here so take a browse.

Books and more on how to be kinky

As for how to turn men into submissive slaves, toys alone will not do that, a lot of it will be in your head! There are several good books you can read. Our faves for beginners are 'How to be Kinky: A Beginner's Guide to BDSM' by Morpheous and 'The New Topping Book' by Dossie Easton & Janet W. Hardy. If you're looking for an introduction to rope bondage then 'Showing you the Ropes' by Two Knotty Boys is an excellent start. Once you get going, if you realise you want to learn more, we recommend you join the online social networking site Fetlife as it's a mine of information and there are so many knowledgeable people to chat to.

Corsets can work wonders

And ladies, the purchase of a corset can work wonders. We don't currently stock any on our site but you can search for local corset providers. If you don't have any luck you can try these folks.

Here at Doris Nyx we love it when people follow their passions and explore new ways to pleasure themselves and others. We hope you enjoy unleashing your inner Dom!